Too often we tend to save up our positive emotional energy for the future big things. Things like the weekend, or a vacation, or a favorite event or concert. And just as frequently, this means we lose sight of the little things. We’re miserly in our affection and attention. We’re jumping in our mind one or two steps ahead. When we’re making breakfast, we’re thinking about the commute. When we’re on the commute we’re thinking about work. When we’re at work, we escape occasionally other ways. Make dinner. Get to practice. Get homework done. Eat your veggies. Take a shower. It’s overwhelming if we don’t just take things one step at a time and enjoy the moment of that step. If we just stay emotionally invested with good energy in as many of those tiny moments as possible, we’d all be happier. No reason to save up your happiness for a long weekend or anything. Live happiness every day – it’s there for the taking.
Staying mentally engaged in the moment uncovers many tiny daily treasures, and some bigger daily treasures, that often go unnoticed when our mind is living in the past or future. So as I hope you do as well, I’ve been trying to stay present more often, and am learning to find positive energy and true happiness in the little daily things we take for granted. For example, my celebrations of today that made me happy and brought joy to me (and in some instances to others):
- I had purchased some cheap jello pudding cups for lunches – and watching LoudBoy go bananas for them (“This is probably the best lunch I ever had!!!!”) was worth the $0.25 price of admission.
- Laughed with the kids as the rain and wind almost blew us away while we waited for the bus while we were trying to avoid stepping on all the worms
- Started listening to a new audiobook on salesmanship, which will help as I grow into my new job, while sipping on a thermos of homemade coffee (black) on the short work commute
- Felt real pleasure with the comradeship and respect of my coworkers and boss despite my short time on board. Good energy here.
- Enjoyed a lunchtime run, feeling healthy (and slow) as I try to get into summer shape
- Grilled some brats for the first time this year for dinner
- Had some special dog time tonight, as Dum Dum curled up by my feet while I caught up on my guilty pleasure of reading my favorite magazines
- Seven year old LoudBoy, who isn’t always as affectionate towards me as his mom, was very kissy tonight with me. I’m not sure how much longer he will be like that, so tonight I savored the moment of cuteness. Then he said we were the best parents ever. Great moments!
Life isn’t always easy and we all have stresses that can bring us down if we focus on them. I could have easily taken every one of those bullets above and made it a negative with the opposite mindset. I could have dwelled on the fact my wife Holly was still had residual pain from her recent surgery, or annoyed that my commute has idiot drivers, or gotten on the kids’ asses about not putting away laundry or getting their things ready for their after school sports. But I just stayed in the moment and both generated positive energy, and saw it reflected back my way. Much better day for soaking that in, something we all likely need to stay on top of. Thus yoga or meditation or focusing or calming activities can help a lot. For happiness, enjoy those little things as much as you can.
This week, I hope to wrap up some posts on:
- nuts and weight loss,
- my thoughts on Red Pill and results after 3+ years of blogging and bringing my wife into the fold (my first of 78 posts that were much raunchier at the now defunct losingbetamarriedguy.blogspot.com was put up on April 3, 2012 – it wasn’t until August 2012 that I let my wife know and brought her on board),
- bang for the buck exercises and home workout plan with just a few things like dumbells or barbells – to get ready for summer (only about a month to Memorial Day)