Upon reflecting on 2014, it’s been one of the more interesting ones in my life. Some really exciting things happened in the Average Married Dad enterprises, and some really good things and some crappier things on the personal front. Many have been supporters and have been along for the ride, but here are some highlights:
- Published a book (check out if you haven’t, it’s good and the Kindle version is less than the price of a Chipotle Burrito) – by the way, it’s still selling, not as much as I’d like, but some.
- Started second book (and really a third), both are a long way out. The first book took about 18 months from the first words typed before it completed the process (more of a motivation and inspiration issue than anything else) and I would expect the same with these.
- Started two new websites (one for fun, one getting ready to officially launch as a side business in 2015.)
- Began beta run of said side business, will begin phase 2 of beta run in early 2015, stay tuned.
- Went to Disney with the Fam (first Major family vacation ever, trips to nearby cities or camping has been our MO to date)
- Went to Cancun on a sexcation with the wife (first real trip with the wife since before the kids were born), it was lovely
- I was interviewed and had a blurb in Men’s Fitness magazine
- Met up with Captain Capitalism for a night on the town
- Went to a workshop with one of my favorite speakers and metaphysical thinkers, Mike Dooley. He has been a big inspiration in my life and thinking, and it was very cool to meet many other like-minded people and to learn more techniques on finding and manifesting happiness that I can share with others.
- Saw Dr. William Davis, author of Wheat Belly speak, and had a chance to meet him. While the end of the year diet has been a clusterfuck around the holidays, for the most part, our family continues to eat a non-wheat or non-flour diet. What’s interesting is seeing wheat’s connection with so many diseases, including studies showing links to increased autism in children. I think we’re just seeing the tip of the iceberg on wheat, and it’s pesticide/herbicides, impact on our health.
- Saw and met actor/comedian Bobcat Goldthwait, and even interacted with him in his act over my dislike of snaggletooth Kirsten Dunst
- I shot sporting clays for the first time, good fun. My brother bought a property this year for the express purpose of being a getaway and hunt land. I didn’t get my shit together this year, but hope to join him next year.
- I reestablished a relationship with my younger brother, who I was convinced would die last year due to his alcoholism. We’ve since rebuilt something good, and are working on some projects together. Very cool.
- Looking for a few fun workout challenges while fighting some injuries this year, I did a two workouts that standout. One was a one mile farmer carry with kettlebells (55# and 72#). The other was my 10,000 kettlebell swing November.
- On the workout front, I was personal training one of my neighbors this summer, which was very fun.
Some of the more challenging things of 2014:
- My wife had hip surgery, at age 38, and subsequently took awhile to recover enough to exercise, put on more weight than she wanted to (not that much really, she still looks go), and dealt with some of the body image issues so many people go through. This is fueling a 2015 return to a better body and self image for her.
- My wife also went through the ups/downs/and anxiety of switching jobs. She left an office that she started up about a year ago (with one other employee) after feeling like she failed to accomplish her goals. This was a tough one, but ultimately, she’s back at a former employer better, smarter, more valuable, and better compensated than she was when she left.
- I had a very challenging and anxiety filled year at work. Having to deal with some of the biggest assholes I’ve ever met made me want to kick my dog when I got home on a regular basis. It sucked my happiness and motivation on a regular basis, and creeped into my away from work time often, causing sleepless nights and much anxiety. This was the catalyst for new job search in 2014. I just missed on a swing-for-the-fences position in December, and will be switching jobs in the first quarter of 2015 (either going to :gasp!: a government position that I was specifically asked to apply for by the bureau director, or going back to a past company in a new role – that I have an open invitation to come back). Despite the new challenges in the future, at least the vampires I work with now cannot further suck the life out of me.
- I did some therapy for a couple months. It was challenging to face the demons of my past, but getting them dealt with allowed me to move forward to a better future.
- Despite a top notch 2013 in our marital sex life, with the exception of our resort vacation, our bedroom life was very ho-hum in 2014. I will say though, with the issue of my wife’s surgery, we introduced into our repertoire (with much regularity) shower sex, which adds some fun and possibility to any morning shower routine (complete with a standing coconut oil container next to the soaps and shampoos – very important since water and natural moisture don’t mix well).
- Just a couple days ago, I found out I have at least a partially torn rotator cuff and maybe a torn labrum in my shoulder. Rehab starts next week. Yay!
So maybe much more than previous years, for our family, we had much higher peaks and much lower valleys than in previous years. Most years have their own ups and downs, but seem more steady than this year was. I’d like to think next year will be better than the last, but who knows. My wife is looking at what her goals are for the next year, as am I. We’re not perfect. We don’t have the perfect marriage. We are both flawed, but we’re both trying to be better than we were yesterday. As Jules Winfield said at the end of Pulp Fiction “But I’m trying, Ringo. I’m trying real hard to be the shepherd.” That’s me.
So stay tuned, more posts in the works and new adventures in 2015. Thanks for being a part!