I’m coming off a most excellent day. Had meetings all day with one future employer. A phone interview with a second. Both much different than what I do now and something I would fit very well with other nice bennies and salary. Came home and grilled some grass fed tenderloin, and made my MIL feel like a queen (invited over) since she never gets dinner this nice (single, on SS and pension). Snuggled with my kids for a bit before bed. My wife and I had happy sex (teasing each other all day, after missing each other in the shower in the early morn [shower sex has been an easy hit for us the last six months for some reason] because my home-gym workout took longer than expected). Now, I’m enjoying myself watching the movie “DRAFT DAY” about the NFL draft, one of my favorite (albeit stupid) events of the year. A great and exciting day all around. But I still have unrealized regrets if I were to die tonight.
Our kids have the good fortune to have their own rooms, but the last two weeks, they’ve decided they wanted to share a room. Week 1 was in LoudBoy’s, this week is Birdsnest’s room. They read and do their normal routine, just sharing a bed. We are so lucky they get along so well (2 years apart) and can deal with the sibling stuff. Mostly, they’re buddies, as the sharing a room goes to show. As I went in there after my post coital interlude, and touched their sleeping heads briefly before I went to bed tonight, I was filled with love…and the brief thought that if I died tomorrow on my long drive tomorrow morning to yet another job site, what would I regret? The only thing is that I came up with is that I didn’t maximize my day today, or any day, with my wife and kids. At the end of the day, that’s all that matters. Could you ever “maximize” a day? Doubtful, but it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try. Especially with so much time literally lost looking at electronic screens of some sort, or getting lost in other people’s (like our bosses or companies’) worlds.
So love your kids, love your wife, love your husband, like there is no tomorrow, because there may not be. Don’t hold back on rough-housing time, or baseball throwing time, or snuggly time, or ignoring your phone to play the board game of LIFE time, or the having a glass of wine and actually TALKING and sharing with your spouse time. If you are wrapped in the shit you think you have to do, for people you think you have to please, you are letting life pass you by, and future regret to manifest. Instead, live in the moment while your kids are young and awake and your wife is willing. Don’t let this moment pass you by. If not, the moment is gone, your kids are grown, your wife is old, and so are you, filled with regret. Instead, fill your future historical mind with love and happiness instead of would ofs and should ofs.