Thanks Captain obvious! I’m getting my big sexist paintbrush and going to town here.
Men notice just a few thing about a woman, even their wife. Face, hair, boobs, and butt. So when women spend money on things that accentuate these features, men notice and it is money well spent. Makeup, growing your hair long (and getting it cut accordingly to allow this to happen), Wonderbra (or whatever they make today) along with low cut tops, and tight pants or form fitting skirts, all are well worth it and apply nearly universally to all men. These are things that they’ll notice (and like). Beyond that, we don’t notice, don’t care, and think it’s money frittered away.
Now I recognize men spend money on things their girlfriends or wives won’t agree with in a lot of cases. But compared to the stuff women buy, 8 times out of 10, ours have utility or serve a clear purpose. Electronics, tools, sporting goods, fishing stuff, hunting gear, car gear, sports tickets. Yeah, they may not be necessary, but they have a clear goal for experiencing something fun or provide a clear purpose for accomplishing some endeavor. Men, by pursuing their goals (and spending money on these goals), improve themselves in some way, and subsequently are more attractive to women. Unless you’re Patrick Bateman, you don’t care about how fancy your apartment is, how it’s decorated, what you’re wearing. Men care that things have a purpose. That’s the foundation of well spent money in this guy’s opinion.
Now I’m not without culture, nor do I think we should be living in a spartan cinderblock cell. But a man’s idea of appropriate decor is relatively minimal, and artistic license is maybe provided in musical outlets – either listening or playing, or maybe using your hands to create art in the form of woodworking, or tying flies, or some other form that ties beauty with a hobby.
Women for the most part spend money on stuff for other women, under the guise that it makes them more attractive (to themselves or to men). Now it may make them feel better about themselves, and that’s a good thing, but if it doesn’t fall into the above few categories (face, butt, boobs, hair), us men will even notice. It’s a fight among other women to one-up one another and to scratch and claw to the top of the heap. Unfortunately for many women, we don’t give a single fuck.
We don’t care (or notice) that you are wearing Jimmy Choo shoes (these pointy shoes – price of those shown= $795 – always remind me of the Wizard of Oz)
We don’t care (or notice) that you have a Coach or Louis Vuitton purse (shown, Coach, list at about $600 – but this ugly thing is worth it since women will know it’s Coach since it has the logos everywhere. Yeah, money well spent. For a bag.)Most men (non-foot fetish dudes) don’t care (or notice) you did your toenails, and most don’t care (or notice) you had a manicure.
We don’t care (or notice) you added plants to our house. We don’t care you bought new lamps (we might notice that someday), or notice if you put fancy plates on the wall or you bought a fancy Persian rug.
I look around my house that my wife mostly decorated, and it’s a house full of I don’t notice or cares. Candles. Art work. Many random plants. Tchotchkes galore. Tables and chairs that have “artistic value” in addition to utility. Add to that a house full of clothes, many shoes (so many fucking shoes. And boots. Everywhere.), belts, and crafty/artsy stuff. One outfit looks the same as the next unless boobs or butt look different or better. Thank you random Deity for allowing my wife to shop mostly at the thrift shop instead of the department store, where she can spread her Husband Don’t Care bucks to the maximum extent.
Now I get it. Many women don’t care what their husbands (or men) care about anything. It’s all about them. My ex-Sister in Law obviously didn’t care if she had about $10,000 worth of shoes. Now she finds her self frivorced of her own accord. The validation from herself and her friends was probably not worth it.
I really don’t have much of a point, just a slight rant. If there is anything to take away from this is that “things” can provide some momentary happiness, but long term happiness comes from within, with activities and hobbies for which we’re passionate about, and from the relationships we build with others. Men and women both could save a lot of money and clutter by remembering this credo. And keep in mind that most people are centered on their own lives, and acquiring thing impresses no one at the end of the day. Having tight jeans and a nice ass will at least impress your husband though, which is more that can be said for a tchotchke on the wall.