My wife is a cuddler, especially with our kids. Back in college, she had the reputation for cuddling/snuggling anyone in proximity in a very platonic way. She would be hanging out at my apartment that I lived with three other friends and she would slowly and unconsciously inch toward whatever roommate or me who happened to be within proximity. Like a tractor beam, she would find herself in physical contact with someone. When they finally became aware of it, they would call her out “Holly, are you trying to snuggle with me?” and she would usually get embarrassed not even aware it was happening. On my end, I’ve never cuddled with my past roommates. I am a “physical touch” language so will also initiate cuddling with both my wife and kids on occasion. Rough play and cuddling with LoudBoy is especially endearing and are great bonding moments with my son as we watch Star Wars or some other movie together. Dads need to remember that children need that physical touch bond with both their parents. Anyways, I’m getting off topic here. I saw this article (93 Percent of Straight Men Cuddle Guys) and simply find it hard to believe. While it is referencing British men, it stated the following:
Published in the journal of Men and Masculinities in March, the study revealed that 98 percent of the study’s participants — all white, college-age male athletes — have shared a bed with another guy. In addition, 93 percent also reported having spooned or cuddled with another man.
I have gay friends (one of those friendships for nearly 20 years now) and think gay marriage or partnerships (along with the benefits those provide in health insurance and tax implications, as well as raising a family and adopting children) should be a basic civil right. It doesn’t impact me directly in any way. It is not my intention to get into a homosexuality debate here, simply to state the fact I’m not a homophobe and am generally open minded. With that said, I simply can’t believe the spoon or cuddle percentage above. Sharing a bed due to necessity (for example, guys weekend with six dudes and two queen beds, some people are going to share a bed, not a big deal) has likely happened for most of us, so I don’t have much issue with that, but cuddling? No thanks. I wouldn’t and haven’t cuddled a man. Nor a woman, for that matter, for which I didn’t want to have sexual relations with or have a boner poking her butt. From the article again:
Matt, one of the men interviewed for the study, explained his viewpoint on cuddling with his male friend Connor. The researchers noted the response in their study: “I feel comfortable with Connor and we spend a lot of time together. I happily rest my head on Connor’s shoulder when lying on the couch or hold him in bed. But he’s not the only one. The way I see it, is that we are all very good and close mates. We have a bromance where we are very comfortable around each other.”
Now I’ve told my best male friend “I Love You” over the years, we’ve been like brothers (he’s an only child) and we hug upon seeing each other, like I do with several other close male friends or relatives that I haven’t seen in awhile. But “holding him in bed” is something that’s never crossed my mind. Huffington Post did a nice job of stirring the pot here I think, unless maybe this is really the case with young men today, which explains a lot about where we’re headed. I don’t buy it.
Also not gay: Boy Dance Party
Random post today. I’m going to go cuddle my wife now with ravenous intentions.