I live my life with an open mind to spiritual and unexplained phenomenon. Too many things are unexplained and while that sounds like a kooky hippy who believes in UFOs and subscribes to “Sasquatch Monthly”, I can’t discount the fact that there is more going on in life that we can’t see or possibly know about. Earth has a land area of 57 million square miles and ocean area of 139 million square miles, so I’m sure there are undiscovered creatures in the millions. Really the big thing I believe in is that there is an unknown force or energy that is almost tangible if you are open to it. Much like The Force of the Star Wars films, it is inherent to all of us, all living things, and somehow helps shapes our decisions and actions.
Much like the “glitch in the Matrix” idea, we can see these things as coincidences and deja vu from time to time. If you are perceptive and keep and open mind, I believe these coincidences or random things can actually be perceived as signs. I’ve have weird and innocuous coincidences fairly frequently. Like I’d be driving on my commute home, happen to listen to the radio and hear an advertisement for something not Budweiser or Ford, like a snowmobile brand, then as I’d round a bend, there would be a sign I’d never noticed before for that same brand. Stuff like that.
This morning on the drive in, I saw the license plate of the car in front of me was something like 154-TZU, which jumped out at me. Two famous Tzu individuals have been paramount in my thinkings and beliefs. The first is Lao Tzu, a sixth century B.C. philosopher and known as the father of Taoism. The second being Sun Tzu, a chinese military general and author of the Art of War. Both the Tao Te Ching and The Art of War are books that everyone should read and reflect on on how to behave in living a humble, simple life as well as dealing with conflict in “battles.” Two totally different concepts, peace vs. war, but both important in various ways. My point is that I took this simple coincidence as a sign that I need to refocus my admittedly wondering efforts in aspects of my life and boil them down to more simple things, and re-read and re-reflect on the subtext of my life.
Don’t just discount coincidences with a shrug and go back to being wasteful or hurtful or sinful…take the time to extract what could be an outside force that is trying to tell us something and reflect on small minute changes that could come from that, and improve ourselves or family in some ways through that process.
On a side note, you may recall our friend Swarley who was going through tumultuous times in his marriage. Things have run their course and are well on the way to divorce. His wife is moving to an apartment; he’s through shock and denial stages and is somewhere in the anger and reconstruction phase. I think they are past reconciliation. But some interesting developments with him as he’s working through their separation and impending divorce. One of Holly’s better friends, who runs in a difference social circle, crossed paths with Swarley and they hit it off. They’ve spent a lot of time together in the last few weeks, talk a lot on the phone into the wee hours of the night and apparently really like each other. Holly went “on record” with me a couple nights ago and think they’ll end up together, like married. Her dad met her step-mom very shortly after his own divorce and they’ve been happy together for 25 years, so that’s the remarried model in my wife’s mind. I am hesitant to buy into that dream, but either way, Swarley is healing and he seems much happier which is a good thing. Holly’s girl friend is about 12 years younger than Swarley, never married, no kids, not any visible (to me) red flags and is a good person, so if it does work out between them, he could do a lot worse.
EDIT: Blogger Belle is also going through something similar and is roughly in the same stage as our friend. While I never got the impression that their sex life dwindled, for Swarley and Mrs. Swarley it was like the canary in a coal mine. One day things were fine (better than fine it sounds like, she got crazy hot in the sack) and the next it was stone cold turkey. Like “poof”, their sex life was gone even as they “tried” to figure things out, six months without a drop…poor man must be thirsty as hell. Anyways, thoughts and happiness to our friends, IRL and on-line, as they deal with separation and divorce.