Hello there internet traveler, and welcome to this post! So things aren’t going so great for you and your wife these days and you’re looking to find out what you can do? Perhaps you’re a christian man, or perhaps you’re not, but either way you want that passion back you had those first few months that have since eroded away? Well look no further, I’m going to give you all the answers you need to get your wife to fall back in love with you, and bring back those exciting and frequent times in the bedroom. Follow this advice and she’ll be on you like a fat kid on cake.
1) Treat her like a princess – your wife undoubtedly grew up watching Disney and believes she’s a princess and should be treated like one. Are you? You need to put her up on a pedestal and do everything you can to make her happy. Gifts like flowers, jewelry and spa time go a long way towards this princessy feeling.
2) Do More Chores – It’s likely you do a fair amount of housework already. Even if you work full time and she works part time, you should be doing more. According to women, nothing turns them on more than seeing a man help out with chores, so that being the case, more is better. This frees up more of her time to feel like a princess and be able to spend time on Facebook and Pinetrest (whatever that is! LOL!) while you make her happy (and turned on!!)
3) Lapdog her – Who doesn’t like a good pal like the lapdog? What this means is to make sure you are following her around, giving her big hugs as often as you can, and not going more than 30 minutes (an hour tops) when you’re both hanging at home without telling her you love her. This will show her how much you appreciate her goodness and these positive feelings will undoubtedly translate into wanting to take you to the bedroom.
4) Compliment and Cuddle – after the kids are in bed, the best way to turn her on is to sit on the couch together to watch your favorite drama, cuddle her, and at the commercials give her lots of compliments. If this doesn’t work, it’s likely because A) You aren’t cuddling hard enough B) You aren’t complimenting enough. You also could try the “secret weapon” and actually compliment her WHILE cuddling. Guaranteed to work! Also, if she asks a question like “does my butt look fat?” you need to remember the C&C line of thinking and of course say “no!”. DO NOT Agree and Amplify , that’s just mean.
5) Make sure the kids are the highest priority – The children are our future, and they need to come first. No reason to put your spouse first when you can prioritize the kids, their activities and interests. Everyone is happier that way. You may not even need to compliment and cuddle as much since the kids (younger ones especially) have a tendency to want to do this, so win for you! It’s also really easy to rekindle the connection further after the kids move on after high-school.
6) Let her make the decisions – Similar to treating her like a princess, she should be the one making the decisions since that will make her happy. She should always decide where to go to dinner, what type of vacation to go on, what things to buy and so on. Also, since you don’t really care who drives, you should let her do most of the driving since this is probably what she wants but is too afraid to tell you.
7) Prioritize her interests over yours – Yeah, you don’t really want to go to your step niece in-law’s two year old birthday party or piano recital and waste your Saturday, but since she thinks it’s a good idea, you need to go to show her your support. This undoubtedly will lead to feelings of affection and will carry over to falling back in love with you.
8) Sports are for winners – Watching them that is..no need to participate in one. Nothing creates attraction more than watching lots of sports, especially spending most of Sunday watching NFL football so you can see how your fantasy football players do. It shows you are passionate toward something and manly to boot!
9) Be Nice and a gentleman – “Nice guys finish first” should be the saying. She wants you to be nice, not to get passionate and stick up for yourself…that would make you a trouble maker and a jerk. Also, don’t behave like a manbearpig. Don’t be grabbing her butt, or making out with her (a quick peck is what she wants), or saying racy things in her ear – only assholes do that.
10) Woo her to the, and in, the bedroom – You should never be direct in your desires or needs for sex, this isn’t what she wants. She wants you to give her back rubs and light candles and whisper sweet nothings in her ears. If you do a good enough job, she’ll probably give you the gift of her velvety pleasure animal. But keep it missionary, that should be your “mission” (LOL! Pun!). No reason to try new positions or blindfolds or dirty movies…that’s how animals behave. Who cares if you were into that stuff when you were first exploring the passions of new love, you should have gotten that out of your system by now
11) She should love you for you, and her for her – You’ve been together for awhile, and are each others’ best friend. Sure you’ve put on a few pounds and have an extra chin, but she has too. You should accept that this is how things will be and should love each other as you are. It’s too hard to find time after you have kids to make yourself better, so simply do your best to remain attracted to her, and she’ll do the same thing.
So there you have it. Follow these steps and things will magically improve and she is going to be all hot and bothered for you once again!
[Now obviously sarcasm doesn’t always translate in writing, but you’d have to have drain bamage from that skiing accident or have grown up eating glue to miss my point here. If you are here for the first time, trying to make things better, conventional wisdom and fem-dominated thoughts that were fed to us as young men are totally wrong. While it may take awhile, you’ve got to learn why things are the way they are. Poke around this site, check out my links and if you want, e-mail me at the address in my “About Me” tab. After you’ve digested things come back and share. At one point, I believed all 11 “tips” thinking if I created a happy environment with little stress my wife would appreciate it and our marriage and sex life would improve. Trust me, the opposite will occur. Educate yourself, empower yourself to learn why. Spread the word.]