A few links to stuff in the last week.
Always Each Other had this little insight from reflections of the last two years of sex, when compared to the previous 10 years in a sexless marriage. The gist of the post is take the marriage ups with the downs and don’t get too hung up on the details.
Two years in we have a different sex life than we did in the months immediately following that night. The rhythm of our lives is different now, and we don’t have quite as much free time (or free time at the same times) as we used to. Part of getting this aspect of our marriage back on track has been acknowledging, adapting to, and honoring the fact that our interest and availability are going to be different at different times–and that our libido levels aren’t always going to match up perfectly. But the most important thing is that we have a satisfying sex life!
Hooking Up Smart had an interesting post about finding the sweet spot for tying the knot (age wise, biological and economic/social factors that make happy, long marriage more likely). Interesting to see that we hit most of these “success” factors in my own marriage.
BB Sez More had this one a couple weeks ago that breaks down marriage and household responsibilities. Very similar to our household approach. Holly’s vantage point or where she falls in the spectrum of work-share may be shifting slightly. She’s mentioned several times to relax my whirling dirvish OCD tendencies and let her do more. Hard for me. Example: tonight she asked me if I always had to be moving (passive-aggressive way to tell me to relax, she’s got it). At the time she was cleaning up the kitchen and doing dishes, and family dinner time was upon us so I got started that. At the end, we literally high-fived about our teamwork as both things got done simultaneously. Find what works for you. I think I am going to start relaxing a bit more (Holly even said I should use this time to recuperate from my injury and take it easier than typical is my nature).
I’m a fan of Smiling Belle’s Journey, though I have to admit I can usually only take it in small doses because she is so syrupy sweet. I mean can anyone really be that nice? Anyways, she had this great little post recently about how being an affectionate married couple trickles down to the kids viewpoint of gender and married roles even if it’s not intended to do so. She also had this one about dealing with being “off” and apologizing and getting back on track.
Finally, 10 Years In is back live and blogging after an absence of 9 months. They had some marital trauma that they are coming back from. I may not have linked her before due to a long stretch of inactivity, but another “real” married blogger dealing with life issues. Not so much a specific marital post to link to right now, but putting this blog on your radar as it chronicles real life.
Also, it seems that with the exception of MMSL and Dalrock and a few other Christian type bloggers, there is a lack of male presence in this realm. If you know of any more I should be following, let me know.