Every girl or women that I’ve seen romantically has had curves. Now height, weight, slenderness or width has varied to some degree, but Sir Mix-A-Lot here likes some feminine softness. The Crossfit pictures I see with the girls with the six packs and manish low-fat bodies isn’t really that attractive to me.
I was trolling around the interwebs on Sunday and found this article: Ask the Dude: Real Men Likes Curves. The gist of the article is some woman, who has curves (which I’m guessing she’s fat, but whatever), asks if she can wear a bikini this summer or if it will repulse men. While he gives the typical, PC, crap answer for fatties (everyone should just love their body), he does drop this pearl of wisdom:
Everyone wants to look better naked and/or near naked, especially in environments where your body can be constantly compared to others.
One thing men really don’t find attractive: stick figures. If we can’t tell if you’re a girl or just a cross-dresser, that’s less attractive than an hourglass figure. And let me tell you something, there’s a ton of stick figures on the beach who think they look great while a lot of guys are thinking: “Eat something!” “If I picked her up, would she break?”
That is something I can stand behind. I understand your body type is what it is, and no disrespect to any readers out there, since some men LOOOVE your skinny body type, but to me, low body fat, slim body type represents a girl. A woman should have a waist and hips and be soft in the right spots. When you slide your hand, half on her back, half on her side, down her side, there is something beautiful as it transitions from ribs to small waist back around to her hips and ass. Curvy women are where it’s at.
Now notice I didn’t say fat women are where it’s at! If you’ve got GLH (girl love handles, usually accentuated by wearing pants with a too tight waist) and a FUPA (fat upper pussy area) [or the man’s version of those] you have work to do. Still figuring out your baby weight situation or trying to get into bathing suit condition? Check out Robb Wolf and Mark Sisson for ideas on changing your diet. Keep in mind, your body composition (fat percentage at least) is probably 70% diet related, 15% stress and sleep related and 15% exercise related [though as you drop to a fat percentage you’re happy with, body comp will start to shift toward exercise – if you want muscle mass, you have to lift Bro]. Holly and I are trying to eat as clean as we can for another month and results are a little mixed on the scale, but more apparent in the pants size and mirror test.
Don’t be afraid of your curves, embrace them, but tighten them up the best you can for the upcoming summer months.