I’m about the worst gift giver. As far as “Love Languages” go, I seem to remember gifts rank last for me. Sure, I’ve had a few hits for my wife. One year for Christmas I gave her a surprise gift of flight and plans for her to visit her best friend in another part of the country (including getting her vacation coordinated with her boss) and I got her some cool new Olympic weight lifting shoes I surprised her with last Christmas. Mostly though I shop from a list or don’t really even get a gift at all. That includes birthdays, anniversaries, Mother’s Day, and especially Valentine’s Day. I’ll be honest here, it’s really a personal flaw that I find next to no value in gifts for major holidays or events. Instead, I’ll pick up things for her or the kids on a much more random schedule when I happen to be shopping for other things. I believe it all balances out in the grand scheme of things, but some may disagree.
The only saving grace of this personality flaw is that Holly is as bad, if not worse than, me at this gift giving thing. We were out of town last weekend, having dinner with some friends when the subject of Valentine’s Day came up. We both got this look of panic on our faces, each face each other, and both say at nearly the same time “I’m not getting you anything for Valentine’s Day”. WHEW! Sigh of release for both our parts.
Some other recent Valentines Day posts railing against tradition:
- Judgy Bitch did a recent post about how V-day is bullshit and meant for kids.
- Red Pill Room says to be more Beta for Valentines Day (in jest since you’ll be more likely to get divorced).
- BbSez had one V-Day is Not Okay this year and 2012’s version of anti-Valentines Day post
- EDIT: Great stuff by RedPillWifey on valentines cards here: My favorite: “I’d like to dedicate this boner to you!”
Since our marriage has settled into a sweet spot the last year or two, I am much, much happier on a daily basis and much more in touch and in love with my wife. I don’t need Hallmark or any other advertiser (“Oh, he shops at Jared”) to remind me that I love my wife, do I? The fact we’re both on the same page on this issue shows me I’ve got someone special.
So if I find time, I might get my wife a box of chocolates, and with the Whole Life Challenge (post coming soon) starting Saturday, it will be the last time for awhile. A Valentine’s Day shag would be nice, and I will try to talk Holly into wearing some lingerie, but that’s as far into the holiday as we’ll go. Bah humbug on Valentines Day!
If you must give cards, (I fully expect all my readers are “Game of Thrones” fans), here are some cards to print out and give to your friends, wife or husband. HODOR!
or if you prefer..