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I Love Being a Dad

September 26, 2012 by AverageMarriedDad 5 Comments

This corner of the interwebs is a pretty serious place.  We’re attempting to learn from each other, but unless you’re mostly in a good place to begin with like Ian Underwood (who for some reason I always get a positive vibe reading his writings, and its not just from his pinup girls) it seems like there’s a jaded undertone.  It makes sense though, as why do people stumble down the rabbit-hole unless they were looking for answers to some hurt to begin with?  And sure, there are funny bloggers like Bronan the Barbarian , but most are pretty serious including many of my own writings, with the exception of some random turds…er.. gems that shine through the muckety muck.   Because of the serious nature of the Manosphere, we family men tend to lose sight of the positive, and why some of us are here to begin with (benefit of marriage and subsequently our family and children).  Today I simply wanted to share just a few random quick, light and happy things that are not intended to provide much great insight or revelations but maybe lift up a few hearts.  A quick shout-out to our i-friend Ben who’s struggling with some major life decisions directly related to having kids.

A) When Holly is traveling, I find my bed tends to get a little crowded most nights as Birdsnest and LoudBoy like to sneak in and snuggle. I love those moments since Holly tends to get a lot of the snuggle attention when she’s around.  However, after falling asleep on Sunday night, I found myself with about 4 square feet of real estate to find shut eye after both kids steamrolled me nearly off the bed.

B) Birdsnest is a really great kid.  Here’s what she wrote me for Father’s Day this year (click for full size):

C) Doing kid stuff makes you feel like a kid again, which is something we take for granted living in the grown up world.  Holly found a preying mantis for LoudBoy, so him and I spent some time catching spiders and other bugs for the mantis to eat.  LoudBoy was super excited and not at all intimidated by decent sized wolf spider (just like me, now Holly is another story).  Unfortunately the mantis didn’t make it, but was subsequently replaced today by a grasshopper. So now we get to see who’s going to survive in the “Cage”: Grasshopper or Wolf Spider.  Let the battle begin!

Oh, the kids test my patience and manhandle the puppy (who I’ll refer to as “Dum-Dum” and will have to write about at some point), but honestly I can’t help but have a soft heart and a warm smile most days as a direct result of who they are.  The fact that this window of loving innocence is so small makes it that much more special when you can stop and reflect and enjoy the brief time when they believe in Santa, their largest desire is playing after school with the neighborhood kids and they really have few worries in the world.  When you read so much about how kid’s childhood impact who they are as adults, you want to do whatever you can to impart values, love, comfort, security and wisdom so that they can grow up and be good people.  For me, most days are a balance of giving them routine, discipline, freedom and love and hopefully it’s the right mix.  I know that mine and Holly’s approach to parenting are mostly on the same page, but what we bring to the table is different but complementary.  I think the kids would have an unbalanced view on life if one parent were allowed to dominate the parenting.  That alone is a strong incentive to work towards fixing weak areas individually and to establish a loving and strong marriage if its possible.

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  1. Ben says

    September 26, 2012 at 11:21 am

    d’aaaaaaaaaawwww! (-:

    Thanks for the shout-out. I’m getting through it. It’s good to catch an occasional glimpse of what’s on the other end of the process.

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  2. Jacquie says

    September 28, 2012 at 8:09 am

    This post right here is exactly why I am glad you didn’t stay away from blogging. What you said in the first few sentences has been one of the most difficult things for me reading around this corner. Your blog helps to balance it out. Mostly I still want to see the glass at half full although at times it is difficult. Today your post let me see the glass at almost full. Thank you for writing and sharing.

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    • AverageMarriedDad says

      September 28, 2012 at 8:38 am

      Thanks for the kind words Jacquie. I’m a really positive person and it get’s depressing in this neck of the woods sometimes! It does help that I’m writing from a good place and hope that our journeys can help others (like yours does as well).

      Reply
  3. Bronan The Barbarian! says

    October 1, 2012 at 12:52 am

    Thanks for the shout out!

    Reply
  4. RPMan says

    October 2, 2012 at 2:34 pm

    Being a great dad is mostly a beta activity. The problem stems from a lot of people defining beta as bad. It’s not. It’s part of life’s balance and very necessary.

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